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Everyone deserves a song

Everyone deserves a song

It was very early in the morning on Easter Sunday. My plans were interrupted. I remember being irritated that the Hospital was keeping me from my wife. She was bleeding and it didn’t look good. I walked back and forth in the lobby aimlessly until they waved me through. The doctor didn’t have any emotion on his face. I felt numb. The baby didn’t make it. Our first pregnancy had ended in a miscarriage.

I am not the mother I wanted to be

I am not the mother I wanted to be

There is a saying that goes something like, "Everyone is a perfect parent until they actually have kids."

Man, I used to be an amazing mom. I was in peak physical condition. I was endlessly patient and never had angry outbursts. My five imaginary children were dressed in smart, quirky, dapper clothes; they were quiet, polite, and well-behaved. They picked up after themselves, never pitched fits in public, and never ate McDonald's. Our house was not perfectly immaculate, but there was a place for everything and everything was usually in its place. We were always doing fun crafts and projects. I didn't have a job; instead, I stayed home and cooked them every single meal and snack. (I was also overly judgmental of other parents, but I'll save that for another post)

In reality, my house is a mess. There are dishes in the sink consistently. My three rowdy, spunky, pizza-loving boys live mostly in hand-me-down clothing. I work a lot. I yell sometimes. I haven't lost the baby weight.

But our messy house teaches them that there are more important things to us than making sure all the dust bunnies die. The used clothing helps us to be less attached to material possessions. My work enriches our family in SO many ways. After I yell, I have an opportunity to talk to them about how my brain is easily overstimulated and that it's ok to apologize when we've messed up. My softer body is a great excuse to plant the values of body positivity.

Somewhere along the way, I realized that trying to be the mother I always imagined I would be was making me (and everyone else in our family) completely miserable. I surrendered to the deeper knowledge of my own identity and began to recognize that for me, being something else (like a business owner, doula, and childbirth educator) didn't mean that I was less of a mom. 

I adapted. I grew. Our family adjusted. And we are all better off for it.

No, I'm not the mother I wanted to be. But I'm the very best mom for our kids.

 

What Makes Hypnobabies Different?

What Makes Hypnobabies Different?

One question I get all the time is, "What is the difference between Hypnobabies and this other program?" 

Every childbirth education course out there has its own unique set of benefits it offers to students. As a doula and childbirth educator, I've been able to serve clients who have used many of the more common classes. I even took some of them for my first two pregnancies! It might come as a surprise to many of you that I actually decided to certify and become a Hypnobabies instructor before I had even used Hypnobabies for a birth of my own.

So why did I have so much confidence that I should teach Hypnobabies? I did a lot of research, and the things that were important to me were student satisfaction rates, partner participation and involvement, usable tools for the birth, and the thoroughness of the program. After comparing many of the methods available, it was clear to me that Hypnobabies stood out in every category:

Student Satisfaction

An overwhelming majority of people I have personally talked to who have used Hypnobabies were very satisfied with how Hypnobabies helped them during their pregnancies and births. Even if things didn't go exactly as planned, Hypnobabies prepared them with the tools they needed to feel confident and peaceful about their births. I didn't see this level of satisfaction with other methods.

Partner Involvement

Hypnobabies includes specific training for the birth partners. Many birth partners might be skeptical about whether it will really work, or if they can actually be of help. Thankfully, Hypnobabies gives very specific, concrete, and easy-to-remember skills so that birth partners can feel confident, competent, and helpful during the birth. Birth partners even get their own hypnosis track to listen to!

Tools

When a student signs up for Hypnobabies class, they immediately get to start listening to relaxing audio tracks that pave the way for a peaceful birth experience. There are 16 hypnosis tracks they listen to during pregnancy and birth, 5 written hypnosis scripts, and a quick reference guide so you can have the most commonly used information easily handy, and so, so much more!

More comprehensive

Our class is over 21 hours of instruction and includes basic information about nutrition and exercise, risks and benefits of commonly used medical procedures, the anatomy of what actually happens during the birth and immediately postpartum, breastfeeding, etc. etc. etc. You won't need another childbirth class, comfort measures class, Lamaze class, etc. 

Most other childbirth preparation classes come from the perspective similar to: "Labor is going to be terrible, and everyone knows it, but here are some tips that might help you to tough it out. Maybe." They use tricks like the ice cube test, where students hold an ice cube in their hands for a specific time, and use breathing or distraction techniques to try to take their mind off of the pain.

Hypnobabies comes from a completely different perspective! Hypnobabies teaches that childbirth can be easier and more comfortable than our culture traditionally expects it to be, and gives you well-studied and successful tools for making your birth easier and more comfortable. We don't use distraction techniques; instead, we tune into the way the body and mind naturally work together and give you relaxing tools to practice that will make your birth so peaceful and relaxing!

Many Hypnobabies students are so relaxed during pressure waves (contractions) that they look like they are taking a restful nap. Care providers are often blown away at how calm Hypnobabies students are, even during the more intense parts of birthing.

Are you curious about Hypnobabies? Send me an e-mail and let's talk! hello@louisianababycompany.com

FAQ Series Part 2: Does my Partner Need to Come to Class?

FAQ Series Part 2: Does my Partner Need to Come to Class?

Yes.

Your partner should come to as many Hypnobabies classes as possible. We have special information, tracks, and roles just for them. Students who cannot bring their partner may bring another trusted family member, friend, or doula. Although it's perfectly possible to use the program successfully without a support person, it's best if at least one person who will be present during the birth be able to attend the classes so they know best how to support the birthing mother. (I will say that I've heard of the occasional mom who rocks out with Hypnobabies completely on her own, and that's great too!)

Don't Worry. Partners Love Hypnobabies.

Many partners feel understandably trepidatious about birth in general, and may be hesitant to make a decent investment into a childbirth education class. However, Hypnobabies proves to be invaluable to partners, and gives them solid, easy, reliable ways to assist the birthing mother. Even the most skeptical of birth partners are soon won over, often during the first class. In fact, partners usually end up being huge cheerleaders for Hypnobabies!

To learn more about Hypnobabies classes in Baton Rouge, click here.

Next week, look for a guest blog written by a formerly skeptical Hypnobabies dad!

FAQ Series Part 1: When Should I Take Hypnobabies?

FAQ Series Part 3: Is Hypnosis Compatible with my Faith?

FAQ Series Part 4: Can Hypnobabies Help me with Anxiety?